Wednesday, June 29, 2011
There would certainly be instances when a person reacts out of reinforced behavior or emotional reflexivity; however, we can choose to override those responses simply because we are not animals and do have an ability to reason. Jealousy in regards to our lovers is an ingrained emotional response that is set into our mind by observation of people and their responses and reactions, by popular media, and partially by possessiveness that is innate in human nature. The response to jealousy can be overridden when a partner is trustworthy and secure in a relationship as we witness in polyamorist relationships. When a happy wife in a polygnous relationship is asked about jealousy in regards to other women, she responds "Why should she be jealous? If her husband is interested in another woman then he would simply bring her home and she would become an asset to the family." There is no jealousy because she has replaced that emotion with trust.
I have always known that there is happiness as in giddiness and laughter, happiness as in contentment, and also happiness as in pure joy. I have always striven to be content in life. The type of joy that comes along when we first hold our newborn baby and the giddiness that we sometimes get when we are playing are not going to be permanent states in life. I think that some people feel that they are short changed when their life is not filled with giddiness and pure joy. I feel that giddiness and joy are extra special times that need to be appreciated simply because they are not as common. Contentment, filled with a good dose of gratitude, seem to keep may "happiness" tank full.
Saturday, June 25, 2011
People then may say “just quite”, but it isn’t that easy. Our body and mind have become addicted to the escape we feel when we are using. It is a freedom from reality, form the things that depress us or make us unhappy. We must want to quite to succeed and recover from this addition. However I do believe we are truly never recovered, we will always be in a recovery mode which can make falling back into the habit of using very easy. One must not only change himself but must change our surrounding and recover emotionally if we are to succeed at recovery.
Friday, June 24, 2011
I do not care for lemons so the taste for me was very bitter and unpleasant. However, I love the smell of the lemons so I found that even upon coming out of the exercise I could smell the lemons. During the exercise I felt the breeze blowing which increased the smell of the lemons. The bright yellow color against the dark green leaves were a beautiful mixture to the senses. I heard the birds and watched as they flew through the sky against the clouds. I must say that after this exercise I am ready to try it again on my own.
Thursday, June 23, 2011
Not all people fall into that category though, where there is brain damage. I still think there is a high percentage of people that get high continually because they are not happy with life. They have difficulty dealing with the reality of living and that drugs have become their escape. Escape is not the answer, it just covers the issues. I still believe that some people (maybe not all) can quit, if they really want to, but the key I think is seeking help and gaining the tools to heal, and moving forward.
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
I have 2 totally awesome kids, I have a 9 year old daughter, and I have a 14 year old son. They are the greatest. Everything I do I do it for them. I am recently a single mother, new student as well. Let me tell you, its never boring in my world. Soccer mom, so a lot of my reading gets done in the car during soccer practice. Wouldn't trade it for the world. Okay I will quit typing, just really wanted to say I'm very excited to be able to join in on the blog get to know you guys in class.
Monday, June 20, 2011
I think my favorite part came after we had tasted the lemon. In my case, the lemon was extremely sour and I did not want any more. But I did decide to take a basket full with me to make some wonderful lemon-aide when I left. The part I really seem to like was when you said to visualize the area and let your mind wander. I could see and hear birds, just singing and being free. In fact, I even had a nest in the lemon tree. Towards the end, I felt there could be friendly animals in the woods watching.
Friday, June 17, 2011
The next exercise we discussed was Figure 3.19, Use of the Monocular Cue of Linear Perspective. We decided to pull down a painting that my mother-in-law did of a large ship sailing through many sail boats. Even though they were on the same plank just by using different colors, size and shading she was able to add depth to this photo. While looking at the photo in the illustration we noticed by blurring the colors together and painting the train smaller and darker it appeared to be in the background of the photo instead of the front of the photo. We enjoyed our time reviewing the exercising and discussing our findings.
The funniest one though, that we both disagreed on was figure 3.23, the "Pattern Recognition". That is the one where the diagram contains no actual triangles, but your brain sees them. My husband still swears that the lines are there, they are just while lines. There was no meeting of the minds on this one, even after I read what the author shared about the brain filling in the "missing" lines. He still maintained the lines were there! Now, on the "Blinking Effect Illusion", he never could see the black dots and I saw them immediately. That is a good example of how different two people can be. He recognised the goblet in figure 3.17 and it took me a few minutes to figure it out. I found it fun to share and just appreciate the difference in each of us.
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
I found it interesting to review each step. It brought about a discussion on how we take our body and its functions for granted. I enjoyed talking about what I was learning in class.
Monday, June 13, 2011
Sunday, June 12, 2011
I find that I can be content in most activities. I derive contentment from completing a task, working in my yard, reading an excellent book or watching a good movie. I find that the greatest joy in life comes from spending time with my kids in whatever activity we happen to be participating in.
Training your mind to be content may come from meditation, but more often contentment and joy comes from understanding that life is not always easy or exciting... contentment comes from understanding that we have to take time to enjoy life and all of it's ups and downs. We have to battle monotony and keep our minds and bodies active and be thankful for life and every experience that is given to us.
When it comes to social science, such as psychology and sociology, I feel that experimentation can be extremely harmful when it is based on faulty and biased assumptions. A few examples are gender biased research where women are assumed to be inferior to men or men inferior to women, ethnically biased research where one race is assumed less evolved or intelligent, among many others that are too plentiful to be named in a few short paragraphs.
I am not sure that I will be interested in experimentation since the social work field is too open to bias. I am constantly having to reevaluate certain biases and preconceived notions that form my opinions and even my moral foundation. We are all products of our surroundings, upbringing, and our consistently fluid image of self and the images of others who cross our paths each day. I believe that observation and historical and cultural research will be more relevant to my field of interest.
This also includes animal research, I know this is a very controversial subject so this is only my opinions and I respect everyone's opinion on this subject. During the time I worked as a veterinary technician I was lucky to work with many wonderful doctors that had many different opinions on this subject. One of the doctors that would substitute for us worked in animal research. We had countless hours of conversations about this subject and I learned much from him. As such an avocet for the use on non animals in research I learned not only does this field benefit human research but also lead to benefits for the animals we study. For example heart worm medication for pets was accomplished through research and has saved may of our pets. Yes, I believe in humane treatment of these animals but I now see the benefit scientist and doctors learn from this type of research. This experience changed my views on this study only by learning facts and not hearing one side of the story as is said.
One area I would like to have more knowledge is on why do people feel the to protect themselves through lies and deceit. We start lying at a young age, was it a learned process of a protective process that our brain reacts to? Why as a society has the truth become so hidden but lies have become the accepted policy for many? For example, politics, there is no bigger arena for liars than politics and that is for whatever party we belong to. Do we need lies to make the world seem like a better place to live or to make our family happy with our decisions? Why don’t or can’t we accept things for the way thy are than trying to coat them in lies? This is a question I have had form many years and would like to know more about. I am not sure if research can give us this answer but it would make an interesting study.
Saturday, June 11, 2011
If funny that just the other day at work a group of us moms were sitting there asking the same question and comparing answers. Although many of our comparisons were alike many were different as well.
I believe the genes, family and society have much to do with the way our children develop emotionally. We see this when our children smile, laugh or react in a certain situation. I notice that my oldest son has the same mentality on family as my ex-husband. That no matter what you do they will always be there for you and he is correct within our family structure. His laugh and smile remind me so much of his farther. However his temperament is much like mine where as things just roll off and to really become mad it takes stress to trigger that emotion. He also has the amazing ability of adaptation within the workplace, he doesn't do well with an immediate supervisor but thrives in jobs where he is left more on his own. My middle son who has the same biological father however was raised by my now husband and has adopted may of his traits. He is in the military and thrives on structure as my husband did. School was just a forefront to life and he had to excel or he was not working hard enough. He has my temperament as well so we three share that. The difference in the two my eldest son spent 5 years with his father and his brother only 6 months. So, with these two I wonder was it more genes, family or society that helped him develop. My youngest son, well everyone tells me he is my mini me as a male. We do look very much alike, the same smile and laugh. However he inherited his dads temper which is very emotionally driven. When he is upset, angry or mad everyone knows about it and as I tell him he one day will learn to pick his battles as everything doesn’t have to be so over the top He also inherited both our our love of sports. He is a wonderful hockey, football and baseball player. It is something we all three enjoy doing as my other two would rather not play sports at all. I am happy though that all my boys share the emotional tie to family which is a very endearing trait to have.
I find that society and the acquaintances our children have much more to do with their development than genes. I believe our genes shape who they are, what their core values are but society and life experiences change them to the person they will become. They must choose to take the positive and negative experiences in life and proceed to grow and develop with each one.
Perceptions~ Perceptual bias and the acceptability of polygynous culture in the United States.
Classical Conditioning~ Classical conditioning effects physical responses but it also effects emotional responses. How much of our bias toward monogamy is a result of classical conditioning resulting from cultural influences such as popular media and our institutional educational and religious institutions?
Friday, June 10, 2011
I have always wondered about that fact myself! I have five children. Two are from a first marriage and three are from a second marriage. My children all are as unique as snowflakes! They react differently under stress, have differing leadership abilities, are more out going or less outgoing, and even vary in food likes and dislikes!
The old nature vs. nurture debate comes to mind as I ponder that fact. There are times when my children do things and respond to things just like their biological fathers even though they have never spent a great deal of time with their fathers. I see that their nature (genes from their father) has an influence on their temperament and things such as the inflection is their voices and facial expression. They also act and respond to things exactly as I would! Ironically though, of my two oldest children, my son seems to have gotten more of my genes, while my daughter seems to take after her biological father!
I find it amazing that the aggression that is in my first husband's nature was passed onto my children, but rather than using it negatively, my kids have thrived. David is a wonderful leader and Amanda is self driven and outspoken! My other three inherited my second husband's athletic ability and are absolutley magnificent little hockey players! The fact that they are great hockey players gives them self confidence.
When you combine nurture with the cards that children are dealt in nature, you get a completely unique and wonderful individual. I am thankful that nurture seems to override nature in most instances; so in response to the above question, nature (rolling the genetic dice by mixing parental personality attributes) plays a huge role in why our children can all turn out differently. However, in my brief and humble experience, nurture can replace or override most instances of a child's nature.
I have so many hypotheses why children turn out completely unique that it would be impossible to list them all here!
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
"The study of crazy people.""Psychology is the study and use of a human’s personal emotions, feelings, perceptions, and preconceived ideas for the betterment of that person and society as a whole."
"Looking into the psyche of people and deciding how they tick."
"A subject that is studied in college that has no true purpose other than to regurgitate gibberish from so called intellectuals who do no work and add nothing to society."
Psychology is performed by psychiatrists who help diagnose and treat mental disorders."
There were an interesting array of answers given when I asked the question, "What is psychology?" My favorite answer was the most straight forward answer. "Looking into the psyche of people and deciding how they tick." The most interesting aspect of asking people this question was that many of the people who I asked responded with a furrowed brow. Nobody had a straight forward answer and all had to take a moment to answer!
TUESDAY, JUNE 7, 2011
Mini Assignment 1
1) Psychology- A study of people and what their beliefs are wrong with the world.
2) Psychology- A way of understanding the human mind and the way humans think and act and interact
in the world.
Please post your Lecture Entries for the date of the recorded lecture, not on the day you listen to it. For example there is a newly recorded lecture I completed today. So the title of your entry should say, "June 8th, Lecture Question".
It's been interesting reading your postings! Keep up the great writing!!
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
- Oh, an interesting one. Not sure, somebody who is suppose to be a natural person to help someone, individuals, or families.
- Study of the mind. Psych is mind.
- Crazy people. Dealing with the mind. Why else would you want to get into someone else's mind, trying to help see if they are crazy or coherent.
- We'll, a study of human behavior. When someone needs help to carry on they see a psychologist. Your mind is just as important as your body.
- Study of other people. I don't really know what the meaning is.
I enjoyed doing the questionnaire and seeing how people responded. Each one was so different. Three of them asked if there answer was correct. I told them there was no right or wrong answer, I just wanted to know what the word meant to them. The question seemed to open up the door for some of them to share personal experiences, good and bad about the mind, mental illness and different members of there families. Each one was very supportive of my schooling and seemed pleased to be able to help with the question. I found it to be a fun experience.
I think some of it may come from our genes, what we inherit, and who we associate with. Another possible influence would be our teachers, whom we spend so much of our formative years with. Our friends influence our personalities. I think all of these factors contribute to our different personalities, and the uniqueness of each person. I don't think there is just one pat answer.
In my family their was a wide range in age difference, from the youngest to the oldest. I think as my parents raised us, there views and opinion changes as they matured. That change in them effected how they taught and instructed us. We use to say that they mellowed with age. They seemed more relaxed and not as stern with the youngest as they had been with the first born.
Monday, June 6, 2011
1. Isn't it the study of human behavior? I was going to put the study of Tony's behavior
2. The scientific study of people's actions and of the human mind
3. Psychology, the study of the human mind and spirit, They would have a field day studying me
4. The study of the human mind and human behavior
5. The study of the mind and how and why people behavior the way they do, right?
Although everyone know what the answer was their answers were all based off of their life experiences. I believe to be the most interesting was finding out that the people I spoke with themselves felt they could use some type of counseling or had had some in the past. Although they joked about it, I found they were very open and honest about their thoughts on phycology and my interest in this field . How amazing I found it that one question could open the doorway to so much communication and information.
My favorite answer was from a very good friend who I listed as answer number one. How interesting it was to listen to her thoughts on my husband. Although it was all good, it was interesting to see her perspective on my relationship. It made me wonder how much people think they know about someone if they haven't every asked them a question.
Saturday, June 4, 2011
I am currently a senior perusing a BA in Social Work. My college career has spanned ten years! I spent a lot of years taking courses that I was interested in, but which did not apply to any specific degree. I finally set my sights on social work and hope to eventually work with women who have been mistreated and abused within closed polygynous communities as well advocate for the decriminalization of polygyny or polygamy in general. I feel that federal and state government has no place regulating consenting adult relationships. Special privilege and protection has been given to heterosexual, monogamous relationships for far too long in our country.
In the meantime, I enjoy raising my children within the peace and serenity of a small town, studying for a change in career, and working in my little office with students like me who are reaching to fulfill their educational goals!
I am looking forward to reading more from all of you!
Friday, June 3, 2011
I have never lived in a small town before, so this was quite an adjustment the first year. I am originally from Las Vegas, Nevada (all desert, tumbleweeds and casino's). Life is 24/7 there. Moving here was like hitting a wall - very slow paced.... But now I just love it and could never think of leaving. Haines is nestled in tall mountains that I enjoy hiking in during the summer months. My husband and I also kayak. Now that summer is here, we hope to kayak often.
One of my hobbies is drawing portraits of children and adults. I find it to be very relaxing. I do water coloring, beading, and gardening. I enjoy spending time in my yard, growing flowers and swinging in my hammock. Our back yard opens up into the forest, so you never know who might show up each day. It's peaceful, with the squirrels and birds singing. It's my quite spot to relax in after work.
Let see, my current position is working as an administrative assistant for an organization that provide counseling services for substance abuse and mental health clients. I have worked there the past 4 years. Other jobs throughout my life have included being a 21 dealer in Vegas, an office manager in one of the hotel on the strip. I have also worked for seven years with the homeless population in Vegas.
I recently completed 2 years of schooling with RHS (rural human services) in Fairbanks. I am not sure where my schooling will take me, but I know I am on the right path.
My life is very full and rich, I have a wonderful husband and two small dogs (a Yorkie and Maltese). Hopefully that gives you a insight into who I am.
Thank you for letting me share,
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
We arrived in Alaska 11 years ago while my husband was in the military. We knew we wanted to live in Alaska with our three boys after I visited my father here during one of my husbands deployments. We moved originally from Louisiana and have lived in Kansas, Germany, Cyprus, back to Louisiana and finally Alaska. We have gotten to experience a lot of different cultures and am very lucky to have done so.
I have worked in many fields throughout my life. I was a hairdresser for many years and enjoyed that very much especially the people interaction. While we were in Germany I was the manager for Saab Car Sales for almost six years. Lastly, moving here I worked as a veterinary receptionist, then moved to a vet technician and lastly the office manager. I worked in that field for eight years. After deciding to return to the business field I worked as a contractor for the Air Force as an administrator and now I am employed with the Army as a contractor also in administration.
We enjoy outdoors and camp, fish, and are enjoy outdoor sports. My summer is usually taken up with high school football. My son and his friends who live with us all play and I volunteer for the board. I am not good at gardening but love to do it and have succeeded only at tomatoes.
Well, that is a brief summary of who I am and what I enjoy. I look forward to reading about everyone.